When a relationship ends, it’s easy to look back and say you should’ve known he was a jerk, a cheater, an abuser, and so on. I know this to be true because I’ve done it at least 18 times. We all have.
It’s OK to justify that a red flag is more pink than red sometimes, but be honest with yourself and know the difference between the two. Here are five red flags that shouldn’t be justified.
1. Roughness. A respectful person won’t hurt his or her partner. It’s a red flag if he grabs or pushes too hard and then claims he was just playing around.
2. The “Who’s that guy?” syndrome. Everyone has insecurities so a little jealousy can be normal in a relationship. But you should know the difference between a little jealous and a lot jealous. If he gives you 20 questions every day, if he accuses you of things that are untrue, if he puts you down and calls you names, then he’s way too insecure. And the bad news is that he won’t get better. It’s just the beginning and he WILL get worse.
3. Your sister hates him. Your friends and family love you dearly and want only what is best for you. There are always exceptions to this, but at least listen to and consider what they have to say about your new man. If they don’t like him, there is probably a good reason. They know you best and only want you to be happy.
4. What happened to the things you used to do? It’s natural to fall in love and have a few of your priorities change. You may spend less time on your hobbies or see your friends less, but don’t eliminate these things entirely. Consider it a red flag if your significant other makes you feel guilty for doing things on your own or prevents you from spending time with your friends.
5. He’s sweet one minute and scary the next minute. Be with someone who is stable and treats you well all the time. If he has extreme mood swings you probably worry about rearranging your day to make him happy or what he’ll be like when you get home. Instability like this will wear you out.
Women are just as guilty of presenting these red flags, and of course there are far more red flags to heed than those that I list here. Since this list just scratches the surface, visit DatingTales online dating guide for more tips.
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